After living with maladaptive daydreaming for over 7 months, I feel as if I understand it a lot better and see it for what it is. Maladaptive daydreaming is a coping mechanism, a form of escapism to help you feel safe, less stressed, less anxious. MD stops you from thinking about the issues that are making you feel low or anxious so in a way you could look at it as a gift. It’s keeping you safe. At the same time it’s masking the problems you’re facing, you’re not dealing with them, or trying to find out a way to solve or cure them, so as you know MD at the same time as being a blessing is also a curse.
the frequency of daydreaming is associated with several anxiety measures. Nirit Soffer-Dudek and Eli Somer
What would you rather the continuous daydreaming or the anxiety?
Whilst I thoroughly now do enjoy maladaptive daydreaming, I find it very hard to switch it off. I find it hard to stop daydreaming whilst working, which means I find doing things at work and being productive extremely difficult. Even writing these blog posts requires a lot of effort on my part. If MD was easier to control then it wouldn’t be that bad. It does though control the anxiety and anxiety, as you know is not very pleasant. Palpitations, shortness of breath, feeling teary, is all very stressful and scary. I also find anxiety can be debilitating, it stops you from doing the things you want or need to do because you’re so busy trying to stop feeling anxious or the anxiety totally consumes you leaving you with little time to focus on things that you need to do.
So what is the answer?
I do want to be able to stop the maladaptive daydreaming I really do. And I know to do this, i need to let myself feel the anxiety and work out the causes of why I’m feeling the way I’m feeling. I think once the anxiety goes and I work out the causes for it, then I won’t need to maladaptive daydream anymore.
So how do you find out the causes of what is making you anxious?
2. Write down all the possible solutions, even silly ones.
3. Think about each solution in practical terms.
4. Choose the most practical solution.
5. Plan how you will carry that solution out.
6. Do it.
Did this help?
Is maladaptive daydreaming a way for you to manage your anxiety, depression or trauma? do you know what’s causing your anxiety, have you learnt how to control your maladaptive daydreaming? I would love to know! Please leave a comment below or email: [email protected]