I struggle with this question. There are times when my fantasy world that I have constructed in my mind is so good that I don’t want to stop it.  In a fantasy world anything you imagine that you want to happen, can. You can be supremely successful, confident, happy, beautiful/handsome, in a loving relationship, be popular, famous, the list is endless and as maladaptive daydreamers we feel all of this. Every trait that I’ve listed above, can be felt in our daydreams and lets face it they feel amazing. And if we’re not feeling these things now in reality then yes of course our fantasy world is better than reality. After all if it wasn’t we wouldn’t be going there.

 

A double edged sword

However, as you know, fantasy doesn’t exist, so we are missing what is going on in our lives right now by not living in the present moment.

fantasy better than realityOur fantasy addiction prevents us from doing what we need to do to improve the circumstances of our real lives.

If you are avoiding having meaningful relationships such as meeting up with friends and family because you’d rather be at home daydreaming then fantasy is definitely not better than reality as real relationships are probably the most important factor in your happiness.

 

If you can't beat 'em, join 'em

However, lets face it, right now if you’re feeling anxious or depressed and are using maladaptive daydreaming to escape this, then I totally get it.  As that is what I’m doing and I know until I can find myself a therapist or somebody who I think could support me through this then I’m going to stick with the MD because I know I can’t beat this alone.

 

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Hello, I'm Anna! I'm a 38 year old Maladaptive Daydreamer from London. I want to stop the maladaptive daydreaming, which is why I created this blog. Please excuse any typos, as you know I have MD so sometimes writing a post can take forever but at least I know you'll understand where I'm coming from.

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