Today I’m wondering and am beginning to seriously believe that Maladaptive daydreaming is like being an alcoholic. I’ve only managed to survive 2 days without Maladaptive daydreaming, just 48 hours. I thought I had magically managed to rid myself of MD by telling myself to keep living in the moment. Every time my mind would start to wonder, I would tell myself to focus as this daydream was not real and for two days this worked.
However as you know, boredom is a Massive trigger and on the third day, I had to do a 30 minute walk to get from A to B. And I thought to myself, what’s the harm, I have 30 minutes to kill, doing a spot of daydreaming when I don’t need to be productive or really be focused on a task won’t be a problem.
Boy was I wrong! I let myself go back to one of my favourite daydreams and I haven’t really been able to get out of it ever since.
Which begs the question: Is Maladaptive daydreaming like being an alcoholic?
An alcoholic can’t ever go back to having a drink again. As a maladaptive daydreamer if we let ourselves have a cheeky daydream, have we ruined our recovery?
In recent years it has gradually become evident that daydreaming can evolve into an extreme and maladaptive behaviour, up to the point where it turns into a clinically significant condition, – Somer and Nirit Soffer-Dudek
Addictions that have gone on longer are harder to break. So I’m wondering like an alcoholic do we have to go cold turkey? Should we view it as once we start the process of trying to give up, we then can’t ever allow ourselves, like I did, to MD?
I purposefully chose to go back to daydreaming on that occasion, thinking I could control it, which of course I couldn’t. I’m not talking about the times when you can’t help it, a lot of the time your mind wonders and you don’t even realise it, until your halfway through a daydream. I’m talking about when you make a conscious decision to MD in order to alleviate stress, boredom, trauma, anxiety etc.
Is Maladaptive Daydreaming Controllable?
I’ve read on forums that some maladaptive daydreamers can control when they daydream. If this is the case then it must be controllable, at least for some people. It must take a lot of discipline and willpower to; as one daydreamer said “allocate an alloted time to daydream in”. Because as MD is an addiction how are we ever to give up completely if we allow ourselves to MD?
This to me sounds vastly similar to Maladaptive daydreaming. As once we allow ourselves to indulge in our daydreams, I certainly can’t control how many hours or days I’ll spend on MD. I Usually have to go through the whole template of my MD in order, which can take a while!
What are your thoughts?
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