What are the good and the bad parts of maladaptive daydreaming?

I went to see my therapist today and she told me to write down a list of all the best and low points of Maladaptive Daydreaming and then to compare them. Here are mine, it would be good to see yours too.

Why Maladaptive Daydreaming feels good

  • Whatever my character feels, love, happiness, confidence etc I get to feel that too, instantly.
  • It’s a quick fix. Immersive daydreaming is instant. Feeling anxious or low? I know how to fix that with daydreaming so I feel good in seconds.
  • It takes my mind off other problems, such as not knowing what to do with my life.
  • It stops me from feeling anxious.
  • It stops me from feeling bored.

Why Maladaptive Daydreaming is bad for you (the low points)

is maladaptive daydreaming bad for you?

  • Maladaptive daydreaming is an addiction and as we know addictions are not good for you and are really hard to break. The longer you let yourself daydream, the harder it will be to break.
  • Our fantasy worlds are not real. We are wasting hours and hours a day dreaming about something that is not real and for the vast majority of us will never be real. So what is the point? Daydreaming addiction can only lead to disappointment.
  • My work suffers. I find it very hard to focus on my job as my mind keeps wandering off, so I’m not being as productive as I can be.
  • I’m not living in the moment, my mind is often elsewhere so I’m letting life pass me by.
  • I’m becoming late for work, not doing chores like laundry when it needs to be done as I’m concentrating on my daydream so things either don’t get done on time or if so they’re done days later.
  • Intellectually, I’m suffering. I’m not reading anymore or watching the news or learning anything new, as of course, constantly daydreaming takes up time and concentration. Plus, I would much rather go over a daydreaming plot then pick up a newspaper.

Well, this is my pro and con maladaptive daydreaming list. Please share yours below too, it would be interesting to see if they’re similar or not. As per usual, if you want to share something, add something, or offer advise please email me or leave a comment below.

Best wishes,

Anna x




Hello, I'm Anna! I'm a 38 year old Maladaptive Daydreamer from London. I want to stop the maladaptive daydreaming, which is why I created this blog. Please excuse any typos, as you know I have MD so sometimes writing a post can take forever but at least I know you'll understand where I'm coming from.


  1. The main low point for me is that daydreaming just wastes so much time when you could be doing so many other things. I’m just so fed up of it.

    • First of all, thank you for making this website. I feel like MD isn’t talked about enough and should be taken a lot more seriously. My low parts of MD is just the fact that it takes up my entire day. I forget to do so many things because of my MD.

  2. My low point is getting disappointed but even when am daydreaming i know i will

  3. This is so interesting, i have just come across this condition and realised i ticked all the boxes, i always just thought it was an overactive imagination. I am fortunate that i work (well worked, i’m a SAHM currently) in a creative field and this means that i can take advantage of my daydreaming ‘skill’ to write creatively and create worlds for my work in 3d design. i don’t feel much disappointment other then that i think i could have achieved more with my life. Thats laziness rather then daydreaming though!!

  4. Hi, I’m 15 and I don’t want to self diagnose myself but I definitely do have a huge problem with daydreaming. It wasn’t til a year ago that it registered with me that this has been happening for a long time and that I am alone. That would be my lowest point. Mid-daydream I’d have that voice telling me that its not real and I’m all alone. I could be so happy and as soon as I think that I just get pummeled with sadness and embarrassment. The one good thing was that I found that it was in fact common and I wasn’t the only one. This is terrifying to me because it makes me so happy, but reading this list, it makes sense. I hate being alone, but when friends ask to meet I always avoid making plans. But I don’t want to live in my head all my life.

    • Anna Reply

      Hi Mariah,
      Definitely force yourself to meet up with friends. I find that I stop daydreaming when im with them as I need to concentrate on having conversations and being in the present when with them. It will help and yes like you say you don’t want to live your life in your head so definitely try and meet up with them.

  5. Bailee Riddle Reply

    Im only in the eighth grade and I was introduced to maladaptive daydreaming. I was diagnosed with depression last year and that’s when the daydreaming started. I honestly thought that nothing was wrong with it but, it has taken over my life and I am always behind on laundry and although my grades are good now I feel as if they are gonna get bad. They went away when my depression went away. But now, my depression is back and so are the daydreams but, they are even worse than before. One second I will be listening to music with my headphone on the car ride to or back from school and looking out the window and be imagining a bunch of stuff. I will get home and go straight to my room. I start daydreaming and not immersed in my books anymore. I hate it.

  6. this has been lovely to find i feel a sense of relief knowing im not alone im not a freak and im not crazy i had these thoughts most of my life it started as a kid and its only getting worse i cant focus on anything the simplest thing is so difficult i have become more difficult i am becoming more moodier to people i care about when they disturb me i feel so lonely and and im scared to talk to a doctor as i haven’t had any good ones before

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