If you know you suffer from maladaptive daydreaming disorder the thought of whether you should tell your doctor or not, would have already occurred to you. whether you talk to your doctor or therapist about it is another matter.
After 3 or 4 days of constantly maladaptive daydreaming, I decided to Google what it meant, as constantly daydreaming was a very new and very strange thing for me. It did not start in childhood like lots of other people say it did, it just started a few months before I turned 38 years old. So that’s how I first realised that there was a name for what basically a daydreaming addict was. A maladaptive daydreamer.
What triggers off your Maladaptive Daydreaming?
According to the Wall Street Journal, us maladaptive daydreamers spend 57% of our waking life obsessively daydreaming compared to just 16% of the time that those who do not suffer from Maladaptive daydreaming do.
Well that’s depressed me a bit. We are obviously all different, but there are some certain common triggers that set us all off. Most notable are:
Although of course as you know it really could be anything and a lot of the time, some maladaptive daydreamers (MD) don’t even have triggers.
What if you don’t know what your MD triggers are?
Well the advice is we should all be writing down a trigger journal. For example when your mind starts to wander, what were you doing just before?
We know what our triggers are but now what?
Ok so we know what sets us off, is avoidance really possible I wonder? I mean, you walk into a pub or cafe and there’s music playing, it’s not exactly something you can really avoid. If books are your thing or you like working out, are we just meant to stop reading or exercising altogether? And half the time as you well know there are no triggers, you can just be walking to the supermarket and hey presto, before you know it, your mind has wandered back into fantasy land.
I think its nearly impossible to avoid a lot of these triggers especially as it can be anything.
What do you think?
Do you think it is possible for us to avoid triggers? If so how do you do it? Please get in touch and let us know!
What exactly is CBT?
CBT stands for Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) which is a talking therapy mostly used to help people dealing with depression and anxiety. It supposedly helps manage your issues by changing the way you think and behave. CBT helps us to replace thoughts and behaviours that aren’t working for us (I don’t know about you but the maladaptive daydreaming really isn’t working for me anymore) with new ones that work better for us.
If you’ve come to this page then I know how you feel, you’re fed up of maladaptive daydreaming. Yes you love it too, I know. Your characters, your world, the feelings and emotions you feel when your daydreaming make you feel brilliant and happy and safe. Then reality seeps in and you realise you’ve wasted your whole day on something that is not real, you haven’t done the household chores, work or whatever it is that you needed to do as you’ve been too wrapped up in your own head. And you know that as great as that can be, it has to end as life can’t go on like this.
I have a gaol. My goal is to cure myself of Maladative daydreams forever. Whilst the highs are brilliant I wish I had never experienced MD. So I have decided that I am going to painstakingly document what every Maladaptive daydreamer has said helps to control or get rid of this affliction and then test it out on myself to see what works the best. On this post I’m just going to do my best and list them and then I’ll do in depth posts to let you see how it goes. Again, please if you have something that works for you please please do get in touch or use the comment section below so I can include it.
- Write down and keep track of your thoughts. Then analyse what you think they mean. For example, what feeling / emotion are you getting from that particular daydream?
- Talking out loud. So when you’re home alone, instead of going through your daydreams in your mind, say the words out loud.
- When you daydream do it in fast forward
- CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy)
- Tell somebody that your a maladaptive daydreamer (yikes)
- Change the ending of your daydream. For example, if you have a love interest in your daydream make them a friend instead. (I can imagine this will make your daydream a whole lot less enjoyable and so maybe you will daydream a lot less?)
- If you start daydreaming look at an object around you such a table or chair and focus on it for a few seconds to remind yourself to be present and live in the moment.
- Talking to a trained therapist
- Avoiding triggers. (Not looking forward to avoiding music and coffee. Am wondering how to avoid feeling bored as boredom is a massive trigger for me)