If you’ve come to this page then I know how you feel, you’re fed up of maladaptive daydreaming. Yes you love it too, I know. Your characters, your world, the feelings and emotions you feel when your daydreaming make you feel brilliant and happy and safe. Then reality seeps in and you realise you’ve wasted your whole day on something that is not real, you haven’t done the household chores, work or whatever it is that you needed to do as you’ve been too wrapped up in your own head. And you know that as great as that can be, it has to end as life can’t go on like this.
How the hell do we break the Maladaptive Daydreaming addiction? – Anna
How do we cure MD?
I’ve read online that some people think maladaptive daydreaming can’t be cured or treated but there are quite a lot of EX maladaptive daydreamers out there who have said they have broken free from this. Yup they did it, they no longer constantly fantasize. So if they can do it, then we can do it. Yes we can.
1. The majority of Ex maladaptive daydreamers that now say they’ve rid themselves of this addiction have really worked on themselves. They’ve all said it was a really hard journey and hard work. They saw a therapist and worked through their issues. OK, if Maladaptive daydreaming is a coping mechanism to deal with anxiety/depression/trauma/stress then you can see how talking through all your issues with somebody who is trained to listen and not judge you will be supremely beneficial.
Ok, I know what you’re thinking, therapy is expensive and really is a random therapist going to understand anything about maladaptive daydreaming? Once you tell somebody are the little white men in white coats going to drive you away somewhere and plonk you in the nearest asylum?
Well, if you’re from the UK there is a service called Back on Track, which offers a free counselling service. You do not need a referral from your doctor, you just fill in the contact form or phone the number and someone will call you back. I have contacted them and have been told there’s a month’s waiting list to actually meet a therapist but as soon as I do, I will document what happens here. Because ultimately I really believe that this will work. Can you look online and find a free counseling service near you? Could you go to your doctor and explain you need help and get a referral? If money isn’t an issue for you, could you look into therapists near you? I think it would be definitely worth a try.
2. Change the Endings of your Daydreams
I have a love fantasy daydream. Obviously we always get together and live happily ever after. One Maladaptive Daydreamer has suggested changing the ending so you just remain friends. She said she does this now and it makes daydreaming a whole lot less enjoyable and her daydreams are over very quickly as a lot of the enjoyment has been taken away.
Could you do the same? I mean whatever the theme of your daydream can you change the ending to something less pleasurable? I tried this and changed the ending in my daydream even more dramatically so that we never got together in the first place and yes it completely killed the enjoyment of the whole thing.
However, personally I feel anxious when not daydreaming as I know I have to work through a lot of issues and until I have someone who can help me work through these issues, I’m going to have to keep hold of the daydreaming. But I can see though if you changed the ending and stuck with it, you would pretty much kill off the maladaptive daydreaming.
When Eli Somer lead a study into Maladaptive daydreaming, he mentioned in his report that one maladaptive daydreamer that he came across was treated for over 10 years with a drug called fluvoxamine, that reportedly helped to control her daydreaming. I’ll quote him, as he seems to know what he’s talking about:
“The fact that this patient responded to a medication that influences serotonergic tone, implies neurochemical irregularity and suggests a potential association between MD and obsessive-compulsive spectrum disorders”.
So what is Fluvoxamine?
Fluvoxamine, sold under the brand name Luvox among others, is an antidepressant of the selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI) class which is used primarily for the treatment of obsessive–compulsive disorder (OCD) and is also used to treat depression and anxiety disorders, such as panic disorder, social anxiety disorder, and post-traumatic stress disorder.
Medication, is a consideration I think if things get really bad. When I went to see my doctor to tell him about my anxiety and compulsive daydreaming he prescribed Sertraline which, is also an antidepressant also known as a selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI). I did refuse to take this as I want to talk to a therapist first. But at least the option is there if needed.
A Final Conclusion
Ultimately although I’m not a medical professional, I think the only way to treat and beat the MD is to work through all the issues that started this in the first place. And you’ll need help to do this. I can’t see how one person can combat this alone. So please talk to your doctor or find a therapist, if you’re brave enough to tell somebody about your MD then hats off to you. Having somebody to confide in and talk to about this would be so helpful.
Do you have something to add?
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